From one moment to the next, we are constantly changing and evolving how we are existing in the world. What we think about, how we feel, and the things we say and do: all of these aspects of us are constantly in flux. Our persona – what others see in us – is a reflection of what’s taking place in our inner world.
How often do you consciously think about how you are “showing up” in the world? How much of your awareness of the world is directed at yourself?
Why is this even important in the first place?
Emotional intelligence is a term that is widely thrown around in business and leadership circles. It has been described as a combination of self-awareness, with the ability to regulate our emotions as well as the emotinos of those around us. A person with great emotional intelligence is likely to have much more success in maximizing their work and personal relationships, as well as in resolving conflicts between two or more parties.
An internationally-certified FIBA basketball official, Nate Saunders is one of the best and brightest young referees in Canada (but he’s probably too modest to tell you!). He’s also just a really awesome guy.
You’ve got to fail to grow. And I’m not saying you go out there and screw this up, but you grow from failure. There’s no growth without failure, I don’t think. You need to be able to develop resilience through failure.
Nate Saunders, on the value of failure
Now making regular appearances on the world stage, he’s on the verge of potentially going straight to the top of his field in the next few years (the 2020 Olympics is not that far away!). Even the NBA has noticed Nate, which you’ll read more about a little later!
For all the talent that he’s got on the court, he is equally special off of it. I sat down recently with him and picked his brain about his journey, his thoughts on leadership, and what’s made him a world-class performer just as he’s entering his 30’s.
Arguably the best self-help book I’ve ever read, this classic by Dr. Covey is a manifesto on how to live a truly meaningful, effective, and fulfilling life.
Every year, dozens (if not hundreds) of really good books about how to build a better life come out into the world. Some of these books are more than good – they are outstanding! And while I do keep my eyes and ears open for what’s new in this literary space, I like to pay particular attention to the truly special masterpieces that have stood the test of time. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is one of those masterpieces.
Who was Dr. Stephen R. Covey?
Dr. Covey was an internationally-renowned teacher, speaker, consultant and author who taught concepts of effective business and living all over the world. A highly-educated man, he earned an MBA from Harvard, and a Doctorate in Religious Education from Brigham Young University. He put the Covey name into FranklinCovey, a publicly-traded company which specializes in helping organizations foster significant changes in culture and human behaviour. Stephen R. Covey died after experiencing a bike accident in 2012, at the age of 79. 🙁
What did The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People teach?
The book focuses on seven main “habits” or behaviour patterns, with six of them split into two main categories.
Pieces of advice I’d have given to myself (or would give to anyone who’s 20)
I blinked, and then it was over. As they are for many, my 20’s were an amazing, fun-filled, fast-paced ride through many of life’s ups and downs. Thankfully, I’ve emerged wiser and happier!
This post is inspired by a question I received right around my 30th birthday, “what 30 jewels of wisdom can you give now that you’re this age?” I couldn’t quite get to “30 jewels” here; however, these are sixteen things that I’d tell my 20-year-old self after looking back on the last ten years.